Make up artist extraordinaire Ling Tang shares the story of her journey to confidence.
I remember waking up one day and thinking ‘why do I care so much what people think of me?’ Once I started listening to my own answers, I realized it was time to be confident in my own skin. I try to remind myself daily that I can achieve anything if I put my mind to it. Over the past 10 years, I have tried to be my own best friend (a tip from my brother, he taught me this when I was going through friendship breakups and didn’t understand relationships) and I’m still trying after all these years. The reason I’m bringing up this idea is that it’s one of the factors when building confidence. Once you can tell yourself you should let go of certain relationships or insecurities, you start to feel mentally lighter. And then you start to take care of yourself, which is something we all don’t do enough.
Here are my own tips on how you can be confident when you feel like nothing is going right.
Have you ever struggled with going to the gym and keeping up with it? I was honest with myself and potentially so were you. If you can ask yourself daily, in a self-loving way (because it is easy to beat yourself up), what you really want in life, you will start to have control. I believe that people who know what they want in life start to build confidence.
My favorite quote that I learned growing up:
“The beginning is always the hardest, but once you do it again, and again, and again, it gets easier.”
I took this quote so personally because it puts everything into perspective. I tell myself daily that yes, the beginning may be difficult, but never give up too easily, life is always about fighting. I must say, achieving feels more than amazing. So get up, speak up to yourself every day, you CAN DO IT. I don’t know what your goal is and I don’t know who you are, but I do know that you have the capability to have a powerful mindset if you switch it on. Don’t be afraid to do it.
This year I started a journal where I write down my goals. On every single page I also write a quote to kindly remind myself that I deserve to be happy. There are many reasons why it’s so good to have a journal:
These are some of my own personal tips when it comes to building confidence, I hope these tips or at least one, can help you become fearless. Remember, be your own best friend.
Ava Paine is a beauty aficionado, amateur dancer and keen DIY master. This Aussie is far, far from home.